Can I Get My Ex Back After Begging And Pleading?
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Begging, pleading, imploring can be very, very powerful in song. Twenty years ago I was lucky enough to catch the great Al Green doing a special TV recording in a studio in Glasgow, where during one song, he was rolling around on the floor to ask for the love of of the song's female subject, singing, growling and screaming with extraordinary power. Artists tend to exaggerate and dramatise by the nature of the format, and perhaps it is a reflection of the needs of any performing artist to struggle with the industry, and become successful.
It is no surprise that Eartha Kitt admits her performing needs, no indeed Stevie Wonder, who must have experienced extraordinary struggles, especially as a young, black, disabled artist in the 60s. But in that decade, there was perhaps no greater performer who knew how to plead and beg for effect than James Brown. The cape routine with MC Danny Ray, where Brown keeps falling to his knees with exhaustion, absolutely drove audiences wild, and Mick Jagger, who saw this first hand at a concert in where the Stones shared the bill, said screaming girls wanted so much to help him and just could not help falling for that seductive supplication:.
Actual begging, as in sitting on the street asking for money, or food, is something we all witness most days in most cities around the world, and is tragically as prevalent as ever, with homelessness on the rise. Ironically, the begging connection from Brown to Jagger came with Marianne Faithfull, here singing a song about Goodge Street near Soho, the very area where, after splitting up the Rolling Stone frontman in , she subsequently spent two years living on the streets, heavily troubled by heartbreak, heroin addiction and anorexia nervosa.
So street begging is certainly very much part of this week's asking theme, but of course there are many forms of desperate pleas for other things, from opportunities to exposure. Radiohead's guitarist Jonny Greenwood, such an integral part of their sound, explains how much he had to ask for his role in the early days: "The rest of the band were basically friends, So it was me following them around and begging them to let me be in their band for two or three years.
And they finally let me in on the harmonica, actually, and then the keyboards, and finally the guitar. People find themselves pleading more than they realise. She's Gotta Have It was Spike Lee's first film, with a strong female role who had three men in her life, the arrogant macho man, the handsome, sincere man, and the funny guy. Lee, who is now directing a full-length TV series based on this and soon to be released, played the original latter role, with his immortal line, "Please, baby, baby, please!
But why do we ask for things so much? It is how we are made. But it is not merely humans that can do this. Pets are extraordinarily evolved to ask for food from us.
Dogs have their many tricks, and one of my two cats, for example, has an amazing array of routines, staring from purring and licking his lips over your face in the bed, clambering on things and knocking them over, yowling, swiping feet and other body parts with paws and sometimes claws, and, very cleverly, drawing the bedroom curtains, dragging them open with his teeth to let the light in.
But asking can come in many other forms than basic needs.
A whole crowd has now gathered in the bar to offer up more examples. Now the author H. Lovecraft is in the house, reading aloud a quote: "I never ask a man what his business is, for it never interests me. You thought that your ex would succumb to the weight of your words if you lowered your ego enough and begged your ex for another chance. At that time, you considered your ex to be your boyfriend or girlfriend—or anything but your ex—and so you thought that your ex could be reasoned with. Every fiber in your body told you to fight for your lost love and pull your ex back before its too late.
You felt this way because you finally realized the value your ex brings to your life and the impact he or she has on your emotional well-being. Suddenly, your incompatibilities, arguments, neglect or even abuse no longer mattered. When your ex broke up with you, you probably thought that the pain of the breakup was going to kill you.
The suffering your ex was putting you through felt so intense, it cut you deeply into your flesh and made you act on impulse. Since your ex felt deprived of his or her basic human need — freedom, your ex very likely quickly rebelled against your opposition. Your ex probably appeared angry , cold, avoidant and distant, and refused to give you closure.
If this is the case, your ex seemed as if he or she no longer wanted to spend another second around you and started avoiding you like the plague. Crying your eyes out to get back together with your ex is the most ineffective strategy you can possibly apply. If only it took something as shallow as begging and pleading to get your ex to reconsider his or her emotional decision.
Begging and pleading only annoys your ex further and strengthens his or her emotional decision for separation. This is true for any person and not just your ex. Whenever you feel the urge to turn into a beggar and beg your ex for another chance, remind yourself that begging and pleading will only push your ex away and cause a lot of long-term damage.
And some of that damage will, unfortunately, be irreparable. The thing that you should be the most scared of is that you could unintentionally ruin your own perception of yourself. And changing these strong emotional beliefs about yourself could be a real nightmare. Begging and pleading is very dangerous after the breakup as it has the power to scar you for a long time maybe even for life. So try not to sabotage your current, as well as future happiness by intentionally digging your own grave. Once you do, you will also understand that asking your ex to get back together is a never-ending cycle which always ends in misery.
And the more you suffer, the more you will probably think that pitying your ex into getting back with you is going to work. But in reality, negative behavior never works. Happiness, confidence, high self-esteem, lots of dating options, success in life, fit body, a good job, lots of friends, happy family, and everything positive is what it takes to attract the right kind of individual.
Your ex left because he or she was unhappy.